As my friend and I were leaving the restaurant, she smiled and said,”Boy, were we a couple of Negative Nellies tonight”. And she was right. We had just spent the last couple of hours talking about the events that had occurred in our lives over the past year. It had been a difficult year for both of us. Serious health issues, financial issues, work issues, and family issues including the loss of our mothers.
Walking to my car, I felt disappointed in myself. How had I let the conversation end on a negative note? Why hadn’t I brought God into the conversation? Looking back on the evening, I saw so many missed opportunities.
Conduct yourselves with wisdom, making the most of the opportunity. Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned, as it were, with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person. Colossians 4:5-6
Why hadn’t I brought God into our conversation? It was time for an honest evaluation.
- I didn’t want to be seen as a weird religious nut.
- I didn’t want to be seen as a know-it-all.
- I didn’t want to minimize her difficulties with a ‘pat answer’ from the Bible.
So I said nothing. But this is also unacceptable.
I want to express my love for my friend but even more importantly, I want to share God’s love with her. I want to support and encourage her, but even more importantly, I want to share God’s love and encouragement with her.
Making the most of an opportunity only happens when we let our speech be seasoned with grace. So how do we do this?
Let’s talk about this in more depth tomorrow. God’s Word has the answers. It always does!